epiphany

You know where drama comes from?

It comes from people thinking that things which are not their business ARE their business. This doesn’t always come from a place of nosiness - sometimes it’s the result of caring, or empathy, or love, or from a misplaced feeling of responsibility.

You know what makes drama go away?

Realizing that you are only responsible for your own actions, interactions, and relationships. I am not personally responsible for the relationships that people I know have with other people that THEY know. I am not responsible for their communication. As much as I like to work myself into a frenzy trying to take care of the people I love, it doesn’t help.

At this point, I have nothing to stress over. The people I know who are having a hard time? I will be there for them the best I can. The people who caused them this pain? I will do my best to forgive them and salvage our friendship. The guilt I’ve been having over something which is really, fundamentally, not my drama? I’ve forgiven myself for my imagined transgressions. All we can do is move forward in as honest and forthcoming a manner as possible.

Thank god for theatre as catharsis! Last night everyone yelled and drank and cried, and I feel just a bit like we collectively woke up reborn.