mutha-fucka! just point me in the right direction and i’m ready (and willing) to kick someone’s ass in the name of all that’s good and holy.

Or, how long before #2 should just call #1.

Well, I recently suggested a sock fulla quarters as a course of action, and my dating advice comes with more caveats than home-buying. But me, I’d say call him today. Now. Wait, no, yesterday. Thursday. Give yourself a shot at shoehorning in on his weekend if he’s made plans and of planting a flag in his ass if he hasn’t. (okay, maybe planting a flag in his ass can wait for a few more dates.) But yeah, today should work too.
Or maybe I’ve just made my own life way the fuck too hectic.

FASCINATING.

Perhaps he is prolonging the seduction … perhaps he is preoccupied with the mundane responsibilities of everyday life … or perhaps he is frolicking amongst the mistresses of his harem … ??

Allowing one weekend to come and go without speaking isn’t an outrage, but nothing before next Thursday would be indecent …

Hey, #2 may also have come down with some nasty bug, and was just too out of it to call. But, I do agree that five days certainly seems like a reasonable waiting period. So, my vote would be for #2 to call #1 today, but soft-pedal the conversation along the lines of, “Hey, I’m just firming up my plans for the weekend, and we talked about maybe doing something, so I wanted to find out if you had anything in mind before I commit to this other thing.” That way, #2 is GENTLY reminding #1 that there was some expectation of mutual activity, but that #2 has other options if that happens to fall through.

…or was that #1 that might have come down with the nasty bug?

It totally depends on whether or not you went past second base. If you went past second base, he should have called by now. If you hung out on first for eight hours, he has until the end of this weekend, and one ‘hey, what’s up’ call from you. One. (Remember Sheets? this has all been worked out in detail, man.)

Sonya has this all figured out. Totally brilliant, yo. If I’d had her around back in the day, you know how much less drama you would have witnessed Ms. Freesia?

A LOT less drama. So, here’s the other detail. #1 knows that #2 has been in tech for a show all week. Plus, #1 has a big old DJing gig tonight. With these things in mind, maybe the whole thing makes more sense.

For the record, #2 sent #1 a “Hey, break a leg at your rave” email this morning, including a gentle reminder about this weekend and a challenge to a pool rematch. #2 has not received a response yet.

that move was smooth. for real. nice job, yo.

man, I hate boys so much.*

*hatred expires 11-22-03, void where prohibited.

ps:

If you went past second base, it doesn’t matter if you’ve been in tech all week. Anyone can leave a “Just calling to say Hey even though we’re both busy” voicemail, no matter how busy they are. He could call while he’s on the crapper, or smoking a cigarette, or making a sandwich or whatever.

Totally TRUE! But, hopefully for the sake of decorum, #1 won’t tell you if he’s doin’ #2 while leaving the message…

Heh. Indeed.

I met my husband at a party, fucked him, and exchanged phone numbers the next morning. I called a couple days later and left a message. After not hearing back from him a few days after that I called again. That was 10 years ago. We’ve now been married 3 years. I guess my point is, rules suck ass. Why not just call him?

Want my advice? (because I have so much experience to base this on…)

I’m getting too old too fast to have time to play games. I was only 15, like, yesterday. I’d cut through his crap. Call him and ask him what the deal is. Tell him that you like him and have a great time, but if he’s not interested or he’s not in “that place,” to spare you the uncertainty and get it over with.

You might find that there are other reasons he hasn’t called and you’re worrying over nothing. If you think he’s worth pursuing even though he hasn’t noticed how fabulous you are by now, tell him you’ll do him a favor and give him another chance to figure it out.

(And you can quote me on that.)

By the way, I dare you to actually say that, and if YOU do then I will TOTALLY do it next time, and you can hold me to it. That would be awesome.

P.S. Person #1 has completely redeemed himself, and this particular hypothetical is now moot. Thanks for playing!

word

Damn. Got in to the discussion too late.
I think, as long as no one reenacts an answering machine scene from Swingers or waits until the weekend is over to call, it is all good. But then, I am a generally wide-eyed trusting sort who is unlearned in the ways of the “Rules”.

And I second nenie’s “word”.

I third the “word”. I am actually spending THANKSGIVING with him, so we’ll see how that goes.

(No pressure!)

Isn’t that the usual third date? Please tell me that this doesn’t involve his wacky relatives or introducing him to your family.

In the euphomistic game of relationship baseball, that is like tagging up at second, starting to steal third on the pitch, then taking the scenic route through the concession stand bypassing the hotdog vendor and opting for the restaunt across the street.

In the words of Anthony Kiedis

“I love all of you
Hurt by the cold”

Rock and roll kidz.

No, this is an orphans’ thanksgiving with all of his friends that don’t have relatives that are close enough to visit. Considering the fact that my parents live in IL and his live in NY, I won’t have to worry about that whole family-meeting-nightmare … at least not for Thanksgiving.

Schweet. At least one of us is managing this whole dating while living the dream thing. …heh. “Living the dream.” Isn’t the theatre grand?

Seriously. That’s why I’m purposely not dating anyone who is also living the dream.